10 Rules for Constructive Conflict
A graphic of a man with a flame for a head standing with a woman with a bomb for a head.
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How to Cite

Harris, Victor William. 2012. “10 Rules for Constructive Conflict: FCS2314/FY1276, 1/2012”. EDIS 2012 (2). Gainesville, FL. https://doi.org/10.32473/edis-fy1276-2012.


Determining how we handle conflicts, whether constructively or destructively, is a good way to see how functional or dysfunctional we are acting in our relationships. Take a minute and complete this quiz to see if you handle conflict in a constructive or destructive way. It will help you realize what you are already doing well and what skills you might still want to work on a little more. This 3-page fact sheet was written by Victor William Harris and published by the UF Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, January 2012.

FCS2314/FY1276: 10 Rules for Constructive Conflict (ufl.edu)

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